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The Role of a Christian Woman

A few weeks ago, I wrote about the role of a Christian man according to the scriptures. This week, let us explore the significance of a Christian woman. In order for us to understand the role of a Christian woman, we must know her origin.

“…but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” [Genesis 2:20-24 KJV]

Eve was the first woman mentioned in the bible. She was the first woman God created to live on this earth. Her responsibility was to care for her family,  nurture her children, and maintain the household.

Many of us are familiar with Proverbs 31 which describes a virtuous woman [Proverbs 31: 10-31 KJV]. A woman is wise, strong, trustworthy, loving, a hard-worker,  beautiful, kind, and supports her husband in his endeavors. The list of qualities goes on and on, but sadly most women in today’s society do not exhibit half of these characteristics.

Most women have lost their self-respect. They do not know their self-worth, looking for validation everywhere but up above. As God’s children, we are invaluable. In John 3:16, God so loved the world that He sent His only begotten Son…to die for us. What a way to express one’s love for another!

There are many Christians who have misinterpreted Ephesians 5:22-33, which asks wives to submit themselves unto their husbands. Many of us read the first line and forget about the rest of the text which mirrors our earthly marital relationship to Christ’s relationship with the Church. In verses 23-25, it says “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”  Submission is not a sign of weakness but respect and love for one another. Woman came from man so man was charged with the responsibility to lead as Christ did. Remember Christ never made His children feel worthless. He did not flaunt His authority and only sought only good for us. In a relationship, both parties  must be willing to set aside their needs for the overall benefit of their partner and relationship. Love is selfless not selfish.

Throughout the bible, we are given examples of women–strong yet humble. Ruth, Esther, and Jesus’ mother Mary who stood out from the rest and willingly submitted to God.  These women cared for themselves, their family, their nation, but mostly importantly their God. They were called to fulfill a greater purpose. Their lives are lessons for our own lives.

Today, women are portrayed as weak or inferior–the damsel in distress. They are not considered equals to their male counterparts, especially in the workforce. Women have had to fight for equality and respect, from their right to vote to their right to equal pay. Nowadays, most women have deemed themselves independent for a variety of reasons. They have alienated themselves from men altogether. This act was never in God’s plan for our lives. He established a family unit involving one man and one women, then children. He never intended for single-parent households. He never intended for any of His children to be mistreated, violated, disrespected, or worse.

To my fellow sisters, I hope that you will closely study the lives of the women who have lived before us. I challenge you to be a role model. Premarital sex and unplanned pregnancies continue to be  rampant issues faced within our churches. These young ladies are in need of someone to encourage and uplift them. We cannot forget the men as well. It is so easy for us to judge others when we’re not in their situation. What if were you who came to church one day, pregnant and unmarried, how would you want to be treated?

I pray that you will be like the virtuous woman described in the book of Proverbs. Let us be obedient to God and submit ourselves to His will, wherever it may lead. You never know what blessings He has in store for you.

Author:  Kristia M. Beaubrun

http://www.kristiabeaubrun.wordpress.com

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An Everlasting Promise

When a promise is made to you by someone you know and/or love don’t you expect them to keep it? And when they don’t maybe you respond the way I do and become very disappointed in the person and you may even lose your trust in their word. You no longer expect them to come through when they say they will. Your relationship with this person may become stagnant because you no longer have the desire to maintain your connection with them. Well, I would like to give you a word of encouragement and encourage myself to take on a new attitude. So to begin, let’s keep in mind that #1 People Fail, #2 People break their Promises and #3 People don’t keep their word. And the more interesting part is that these “people” include the person that looks back at us in the mirror!  We may have every intention in our hearts and our minds to not be a failure, to keep a promise we made or stand by and keep our word, but, our human nature kicks in and we simply can’t do it on our own.

There is clear evidence in God’s Word of why we can’t put our trust in anyone including ourselves. In Jeremiah 17:9 the bible tells us that the heart is deceitful above ALL THINGS and is DESPERATELY WICKED! WHO CAN KNOW IT?? Basically our hearts are not trustworthy. And in verse 10, God clarifies that He searches the heart and He knows it and does/gives to us according to our ways and the fruit of our doings. But it’s interesting, because God gives us beyond what we deserve. But He looks at us and sees what He has placed in us that will bless others, makes us feel blessed, but most of all give glory to HIM. Another scripture that speaks to trusting a man/woman/self is found in Psalm 146:3 where David reminds us to not put our trust in princes, in the son of man, in WHOM THERE IS NO HELP…And David states the alternative, which is the only option actually that will not steer us wrong, to have the God of Jacob (that’s relationship!) for help and our hope should be in the Lord our God. This will bring us happiness and where disappointment is not present and there is (true) happiness there is peace. Please keep in mind that only through God can you or I be trustworthy, not of ourselves, however but through God’s goodness. While there are significant people that God will place in our lives that we will desire to trust, such as a spouse, a parent, a pastor, a sibling, or a friend there is a condition for this trust. We must trust the person with the understanding that we are human and we FAIL, for there is no perfect person (Romans 3:10). So, we must not trust a fellow human being the way we will trust God, for we will be gravely disappointed and hurt. We can only put our complete trust in God, because He knows our hearts, loves us, and is the only one we will not fail.

When God is our potter and we are His clay (Isaiah 64:8), He will mold us into what He would have us to be. He will keep his promises. If we ask anything in His name, according to His will that God may be glorified in it, He will do it (John 14:13). He is faithful and just in all his works (Psalm 111:7 ) and we are the workmanship of His hands (Ephesians 2:10), so He will keep His word. He has made us a little lower than the angels and crowned us with glory and honor (Psalm 8:5). But although God is more than willing to bless us and fulfill our needs, we must surrender over to Him. We must be obedient and keep His commandments. This is plain, evident, and clear when we read Isaiah 55. I pray that you read this chapter in its entirety because it will open your eyes to endless possibilities of what your life would be with a true and grounded relationship with God.

Isaiah 55 talks about how blessed we would be if we would seek God, which we can only do by our own free will, by surrendering, and in surrender we will become so in love with who He is that we will do whatever it takes to have a relationship with Him, which is obedience to His Word, His commandments, and in obeying His word, He will keep His Word, His promise. He declares in verse 11 that HIS WORD from His mouth will not return void unto Him, it won’t be empty, it will be true and come to life with the intent/the purpose that He had for it and will prosper where He sent it. So in essence take this word, as God telling you, though men/women fail you in this life, I am HE that will never fail you both now and forevermore! What a promise! What a word! God’s Word for your life, will not return void unto Him. The question is will you accept it?? For He knows the thoughts and plans that He has for each of us, of peace, not of evil, of hope and to GIVE us AN EXPECTED END. Prayerfully you will continue/begin to trust solely on God and to have a desire to love Him and be obedient to His Word so that He will reveal His Word that He’s customized exclusively for your life.

Many blessings to you & yours !!!

Author: Jenifer M. Wilcher, LMSW

Source: http://www.hebronfrenchsda.wordpress.com

Hell: NO VACANCIES!

As I sat back in the church, listening to the pastor preach, a scary thought came into my mind. I smiled but shuddered at the idea. “Hell was designed for the devil and his angels, not for us,” said the pastor. I shook my head and thought what if hell was full. We all know that although God intended for Satan and his angels to burn in hell, some of God’s own children will also be included.

Christians have become too accustomed to warming up the benches. We have forgotten the great commission given to us in Matthew 28:19, 20. It says, “Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost: teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world.”  Sadly, many of us believe that once I am baptized and have perfect attendance at church, I am saved.

Perfect attendance in school doesn’t amount to anything without hard work and lots of studying. The same goes for the church. You have to study God’s word and pray without ceasing. Prayer is the way we communicate with our heavenly Father.

A relationship with Jesus Christ, Son of Man will save you. Notice I didn’t say a relationship with your pastor,  your parents, your spouse, or children. You must have your own personal relationship with God.

Though hell was not designed for the children of God, many of us have already secured our seats. Just in case you did not know, it is not exclusive to the vilest of criminals. You do not need VIP status in order to get a full access pass. Surprised? I hope not. God looks at all sin the same. One sin is not worse than the other. Being an adulterer is not worse or better than a murderer. In our society, a rating system may work but not in the kingdom of God. Sin is sin. One is not more acceptable than the other. God is a perfect being, so how could we expect Him to accept any fraction of sin? He has taught us, His children, to despise sin.  “For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” Romans 6:23

John 3:16, 17 says, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.”

The time is nigh. Jesus’ second coming is right around the corner. Probation is almost over. It’s now or never. In this game of life, whose team are you on? Though we already know who the winning team will be, many of us have already shown loyalty to the losing side. It’s not too late to switch. God is a forgiving being who knows and understands us more than you can imagine.

Take the time to know Him. Build a relationship with Him. You won’t regret it!

Kristia M. Beaubrun

http://www.kristiabeaubrun.wordpress.com

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Victory Through Relationship

Praising & worshiping God when we are going through trials exemplifies faith. Faith is the key, but God’s power is what opens up the door of victory. But without RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, praise, worship and faith won’t even be an option that we would consider to give God and if we do they will be empty praise, worship & faith.

Relationship is everything to God, He strongly desires to have one with all who claim Him as their God and their father. He boldly expressed to the Israelites in Exodus 20, the importance of relationship, especially in Exodus 20:5, where He clearly tells us that He is a jealous God that does not want to share His relationship with us with any other created thing that we ATTEMPT to put on the same level with Him. Our praise at our lowest point gives God an opportunity to Show Up and Lift us UP!! Hope you can get excited just thinking about that!

If we look at the scriptures we can see this spirit of praise and worship at a person’s lowest points, through many of God’s people. Let’s consider Paul & Silas in Acts 16:16-34. It begins with Paul and Silas healing an evil possessed woman in the name of Jesus, and her masters, who were Roman, moments after, brought them to the magistrates/courts accusing Paul and Silas of bringing trouble to their city because they were teaching customs that were unlawful for Romans to receive. Basically they rejected the name of Jesus and it’s power and as a result persecuted those who believed in Jesus and were His followers. Paul and Silas were stripped, beaten, and shackled in prison. Verse 25 of Acts 16 tells us at midnight these men of God prayed and sang praises unto God.

Because of their relationship with God, they knew His power. Because of their relationship with God, they knew He was more than able and willing to take them through even this test. Moreover, I believe that because of their relationship with God they prayed & praised with a declaration of  “Lord, I’ll trust You and praise You regardless of what I go through!” Their worship shifted the atmosphere. The bible tell us that the other prisoners heard and suddenly an earthquake occurred that shook the foundation of the prison which caused the doors of every prison cell to be open and all bands were loosed!! Praise God! Not only were they free, but the keeper of the prison was free as well, because he fell on his face asking them what He can do to be saved and they told him about Jesus, he believed and was saved!

Praying, praising & singing to God in the midst of our trials and regardless of our tests is the key that God empowers to unlock the door of victory. There are times we may feel that our situation is so severe that it cannot be changed. We may get so discouraged that we believe that we are chained or in bondage to our trials, our tests, our sins, our stuff, etc. However, what imprisons you must not deter you, because God is greater than your situation. God’s power can break any chain and open any door for His will (which is best for you) to be done in your life!

So, praise God through the good, the bad, the happy & the sad. You can thank Him in advance for what you need him to bring you through because when you take the time out to consider His works in your life HE HAS COME THROUGH BEFORE AND IS MORE THAN WILLING AND ABLE TO DO IT AGAIN!

Thanks for reading and remember God loves you.

Author: Jenifer Vilfranc-Wilcher

http://www.hebronfrenchsda.wordpress.com