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10 Things God Wants from Single People

For Singles Ministries’ Weekend, we were blessed to have Bro. Garry Graham on Friday February 18th to discuss just a few of the things God expects from His children, more specifically the men.

10-Get your education. You can’t rely solely on your talent. Getting just a Bachelor’s degree isn’t going to be enough. Go for your master’s degree or higher. If you’re deficient in something, get help to improve it.

9-Marry for love, not money. It’s not always going to be a consensus on whom you choose to marry. If you marry for money, what happens once it’s all gone.

8-Every female cannot be your woman. People come into your life for a reason. You can’t date every woman you see. She may prepare you for the next woman or introduce you to your wife. You are there to learn something from that person, that you will take to the next level. Ask God to reveal His plan to you.

7-Define your relationships. Differentiate your relationship with individuals. Don’t get the lines blurred. Rank people where they are.

6-Set your standards for yourself high. You should exceed the standards you expect for others. Don’t lower your standards, open your horizons. Be motivated to push forward.

5-Your culture is an asset. Don’t be ashamed of your culture, but remember what’s appropriate in the workplace and at home.

4-Date around. Never stay in one place. Visit other churches, interview for other jobs even if you aren’t looking for a new position, form new relationships. Explore so that you can discover your strengths and weaknesses.

3-Dedicate yourself to your ministry, cause, and career. God something for all of us to do. We all play a role in the ministry of the kingdom. We can’t all be leaders–doctors or lawyers. We must identify our purpose in order to fulfill it.

2-Time and attendance. Be on time. Enough with the excuses.

1-Commit to Christ. Consecrate yourself in him everyday through devotion, family worship, and how you conduct yourself daily. Read Steps to Christ. Take time to commune with God.

True Love

As millions of people around the world wore red and pink, exchange flowers cards, or candies, there were many who refrained from observing this holiday–Valentine’s Day.

For some, it’s a painful reminder that they’re single. For others, it’s just another way for Hallmark to cash in. For Christians, however, the history behind Valentine’s Day is a contradiction to their faith.

Putting aside all the materialism, Catholic saints, and Roman rituals, do we really know true love–the basis of  this holiday? Sadly, many of us would say yes ashamed to say otherwise.

The words, “I love you,” have been diluted. The words no longer hold as much meaning when they’re carelessly thrown around. True love has been exemplified through God’s love for His children–you and I.

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. [John 3:16 KJV]

Love is sacrifice, pain, patience, understanding, kind, appreciation, forgiving, respect.

What many of us call love is anything but love. We’re just too heartbroken to admit it to ourselves.

The Role of a Christian Woman

A few weeks ago, I wrote about the role of a Christian man according to the scriptures. This week, let us explore the significance of a Christian woman. In order for us to understand the role of a Christian woman, we must know her origin.

“…but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” [Genesis 2:20-24 KJV]

Eve was the first woman mentioned in the bible. She was the first woman God created to live on this earth. Her responsibility was to care for her family,  nurture her children, and maintain the household.

Many of us are familiar with Proverbs 31 which describes a virtuous woman [Proverbs 31: 10-31 KJV]. A woman is wise, strong, trustworthy, loving, a hard-worker,  beautiful, kind, and supports her husband in his endeavors. The list of qualities goes on and on, but sadly most women in today’s society do not exhibit half of these characteristics.

Most women have lost their self-respect. They do not know their self-worth, looking for validation everywhere but up above. As God’s children, we are invaluable. In John 3:16, God so loved the world that He sent His only begotten Son…to die for us. What a way to express one’s love for another!

There are many Christians who have misinterpreted Ephesians 5:22-33, which asks wives to submit themselves unto their husbands. Many of us read the first line and forget about the rest of the text which mirrors our earthly marital relationship to Christ’s relationship with the Church. In verses 23-25, it says “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”  Submission is not a sign of weakness but respect and love for one another. Woman came from man so man was charged with the responsibility to lead as Christ did. Remember Christ never made His children feel worthless. He did not flaunt His authority and only sought only good for us. In a relationship, both parties  must be willing to set aside their needs for the overall benefit of their partner and relationship. Love is selfless not selfish.

Throughout the bible, we are given examples of women–strong yet humble. Ruth, Esther, and Jesus’ mother Mary who stood out from the rest and willingly submitted to God.  These women cared for themselves, their family, their nation, but mostly importantly their God. They were called to fulfill a greater purpose. Their lives are lessons for our own lives.

Today, women are portrayed as weak or inferior–the damsel in distress. They are not considered equals to their male counterparts, especially in the workforce. Women have had to fight for equality and respect, from their right to vote to their right to equal pay. Nowadays, most women have deemed themselves independent for a variety of reasons. They have alienated themselves from men altogether. This act was never in God’s plan for our lives. He established a family unit involving one man and one women, then children. He never intended for single-parent households. He never intended for any of His children to be mistreated, violated, disrespected, or worse.

To my fellow sisters, I hope that you will closely study the lives of the women who have lived before us. I challenge you to be a role model. Premarital sex and unplanned pregnancies continue to be  rampant issues faced within our churches. These young ladies are in need of someone to encourage and uplift them. We cannot forget the men as well. It is so easy for us to judge others when we’re not in their situation. What if were you who came to church one day, pregnant and unmarried, how would you want to be treated?

I pray that you will be like the virtuous woman described in the book of Proverbs. Let us be obedient to God and submit ourselves to His will, wherever it may lead. You never know what blessings He has in store for you.

Author:  Kristia M. Beaubrun

http://www.kristiabeaubrun.wordpress.com

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What makes me better than you?

What makes me better than you?
“For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more. “Hebrews 8:12

What makes me better than you?
Is it because I’d rather listen to gospel than any other genre of music?
Or because I avoid going to the movies and tempting parties?
Is it because I go to church every 7th day of the week?
Or because I sing in the choir and with the praise team?
Hmm what makes me better than you?
Does the way that I dress say that I don’t need to wear less in order to impress?
Because I quote from the bible and engulf most of my conversation around the life of Christ?
What makes me better than you?
Does it look like I’ve never made a mistake or even gone astray?
Never used profanity or gotten angry?
What makes me better than you?
It is because I choose to be surrounded with friends and people who
will build me up instead of bring me down?
Because I’ve never smoked, over-drank, and choose not to give my virginity away?
And I’ll ask you again, what makes me better than you?
…My friend…NOTHING makes me better than you because God looks at us the same.
He looks at us as sinners who acknowledge they need a spiritual change to take place in their lives.
God has given us the most precious gift there could ever be!
His love, His grace, and His Son who grants us life eternally!
I found out that in Jesus, all things are made new, and that He loves me even when I don’t seem or do things that are so lovable.
He doesn’t judge me for what I’ve done in my past, but He encourages me not to repeat those things and to move forward in His grace.
He has given us a gift and I have accepted it by choosing to serve Him with my life.
Like David, I’ve asked God to help me with my walk in Him by saying, “Teach me, O Lord, the way of they statues; and I shall keep it unto the end” (Psalm 119:33).
and from Job I’ve learned, “If justify myself, mine own mouth shall condemn me: If I say I am perfect, it shall also prove me perverse” (Job 9:20).
So if you notice something different about me its not because I’ve done anything, but Jesus continues to make daily alternations in order to mold and shape my character into His own.
So just because I’m striving to be more like Him by trying no to do that which displeases Him, it doesn’t make me better than anyone, especially not you; because he looks at us the same, as sinners who acknowledge they need a spiritual change.
So nothing makes me better than anyone, especially not you.
Because what He’s doing for me, if you only let Him, He can do it for you too.

~Rebecca Cenatus~ Just a nobody telling somebody about Him!

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The Role of a Christian Man

Husbands, fathers, sons, and brothers. Some of us are blessed to have all of these male figures, while others have none. Then there are those who have these figures in the family of Christ. I have been blessed with a father and many brothers in Christ. Though I am not yet married, I know God is working on him and I to ensure a strong union.

As the eldest of three girls, I have watched as my father has struggled to fulfill his role as the head of the household. He has struggled to be the husband and father God has called him to be. Being around mostly women,  is no easy task. Men need that support system in order to be encouraged as they press forward.

Over the last few days, I have had an opportunity to bond with my father. So often in life, we fail to make time for family togetherness. Yet we wonder why families around the world are breaking apart. During this daddy-daughter time, I realized some of the sacrifices he made for my sisters and I. I cannot truly thank him for putting his own needs aside for the needs of his children. I wondered if I had ever showed my appreciation. Had I made him proud of my accomplishments, our accomplishments? I asked him and he confirmed that the sacrifices he made were nothing compared to the successes of his three daughters. Those words brought me comfort, motivating me to strive for excellence. I wasn’t only doing it for myself, but for my father.

Our pastors, our husbands, our fathers, our sons were called to be the priests of our churches and homes. Sadly, we have witnessed the end result of these men who were called to be strong leaders for Christ. The devil has launched a full assault against our men, because he knows their undeniable strength and great responsibility in the gospel. Families have been torn apart by violence, crime, drugs, imprisonment, and even death. Women have had to fend for themselves, starring as the mother and father in their households.

By God’s grace our families, though broken, continue to push through every obstacle, overcoming every challenge placed in their paths.

Throughout the bible, we find examples of men in leadership as disciples, priests,  elders, and rulers. They have been called by God to serve in ministry, guiding the church and its people according to His will. Many men have stumbled, however, God continues to hold these men accountable for the great responsibility He has placed on them. They ought to care for their families as Christ does. They ought to care for the church, as He does. There are no acceptable excuses.

God placed Adam in the Garden of Eden to “dress it and to keep it.”  [Genesis 2:15] Adam was given the authority to name all of the animals. As he walked through the garden, he realized that every animal was paired. He was alone so God decided to create a help meet for him. He was to also look after his wife, Eve. “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;  And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. [Genesis 2:18, 21-14]

From the very beginning, God established the role of man and the importance of family. They go hand in hand. “For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?” [1 Timothy 3:5] Without those two foundations, the church of God cannot prosper. [Read Ephesians 5:23-33] We can no longer choose to ignore the growing problem in our churches, the exodus of our men.

I challenge you to appreciate, empower, uplift, and encourage the men in your lives. Pray for them whether they are in the church or not. Love them unconditionally and take the time to treasure them. Do not judge them, for they are not perfect…and neither are you. Keep in mind that our pastors are men first. They also need our support. Though the men carry a heavy burden, they do not carry it alone. That is the purpose of family. We share our struggles and victories together.

Author: Kristia M. Beaubrun

http://www.kristiabeaubrun.wordpress.com

Source: http://www.hebronfrenchsda.wordpress.com

Singleness is not a curse, but a blessing

On Friday May 14,  the Singles Ministries Departments of Hebron and Rogers Avenue SDA Churches presented a forum on singlehood. We were truly blessed and hope you will be too. Here’s a synopsis. Enjoy!

What does it mean to be single? Who is considered to be a single person? Well it’s really simple. Anyone who is not married, is single. If you’re widowed, divorced, dating/courting, or engaged…you’re single.

In today’s society, our youth between the ages of 12-35 are active on the dating scene. They’re the ones who are socializing and networking in search of that perfect man or woman. In order to get to know someone of interest in the opposite sex, one must date. Then what is the definition of dating and should Christians partake in this activity?

Dating is arranging a social outing with another person, creating an opportunity to get acquainted. What happens on a date is decided by the two parties involved. Unfortunately, the word “date” has an entirely new meaning compared to 10 or even 20 years ago. Back in the days, a date would end when she is walked to her front door and maybe a kiss on the cheek. Nowadays, a date ends in bed.

What is the difference between dating and courting? Dating is when you get to know the person or persons you have an interest in. Courting, however, is when you have chosen to spend time with one particular person with the intention of marriage.

Most of us don’t court, we date. Why? That all depends on the person. Many of us don’t fully understand the difference between the two words. The lines tend to get blurred resulting in total confusion and heartache. Then there are those who date for all the wrong reasons. I hate being single. I want a man or woman. I’m lonely. I’m getting old.

We have gotten so comfortable with the standards given to us by the world, that we have completely ignored the plans God has for us. God never intended for us to date. He wanted us to court. Why date around when God has already hand-picked our perfect mate?

Trust in God, don’t worry about relationships. When the time is right, everything will fall into place.

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What’s In a Touch?

International Women’s Day of Prayer

Speaker: Eunice Senior-Baker, Northeastern Conference of SDA

Scripture Reading: Luke 8:40-48

As women, we must reclaim our responsibility as prayer warriors. We must pray for the church, pray for each other, pray for our young people, pray for those who don’t know the Lord. When women pray, great things happen.

One concern of the devil is to keep perople from praying. He doesn’t care about prayerless religion or prayerless work. He laughs at our toil, mocks at our wisdom, but trembles when we pray. So let us continue in prayer.

In Luke 40, we read the story of the ruler of a synagogue who came to Jesus, pleading for Him to heal his only daughter. Jesus never turns down someone’s cry for help. He was on an emergency call. So He headed to Jairus’ house. The crowd also followed Him. As He headed to the house to stand by the girl’s bedside, a women suffering from an issue of blood for 12 years snuck into the crowd and touched His garment.

We don’t know her name. She is referred to as the woman with an incurable issue of blood. She was so stigmatized that no one cared to learn her name. She was identified by her issue and not by the contributions she offered nor her value. She lived under the  Levitical laws, during which it was important for a woman to be identified by family or position in the community. Due to her issue, she was a social outcast for 12 years, excommunicated from the temple and synagogue, considered impure. She was divorced from her husband and abandoned by her family.

For 12 years she sought help and healing from physicians who were stumped. She suffered alone with this illness. She lost all hope and was in despair. She heard that Jesus was in town and had heard of all the miracles He had done. He cast out demons, made the lame to walk, the dumb to speak,  and calmed the seas. She knew that He was the great physician and the only one who could help her. This was her only chance she thought. So she made her way through the crowd thinking that she only had to touch the hem of His garment and that would be enough. It was now or never and she had nothing else to lose, because she had already lost everything.

In one touch, she concentrated all of her faith and instantly her illness gave place to good health. We must all touch Jesus for ourselves. Jesus recognized the touch and halted, turning to ask who touched Him. Jesus was surrounded by a crowd so any one of them could have touched Him, Peter thought. This touch was different and Jesus knew it, because He felt virtue leave Him. Jesus knows the difference between a touch of need from a touch of greed.

This woman was treated by the church and the people as nothing or nobody. Jesus sought the person who touched Him and fearfully she spoke up in fron of the many who had abandoned her in her time of need. Jesus, however, called her His daughter. She was somebody, the daughter of the Prince of Peace.

Jesus is never too pre-occupied to not recognize the cry, quest, and need of a single, solitary soul. There is a certain sensitivity which Jesus has towards the needs of each of us. No one is ever hidden from Him.

Why didn’t Jesus let the woman stay hidden? The Son of God knew who touched Him. That’s not why He asked the question. There’s a lesson behind it. If she remained hidden, the good of the action would fail her. She needed to know who healed her and not how or people would want Jesus’ clothes. Matthew 5:34 says, “And he said unto her, Daughter, thy faith hath made thee whole; go in peace, and be whole of thy plague.” Healing didn’t come from His clothes. She shouldn’t be misled. Touching Christ or His clothes didn’t bring healing, because there were many in the crowd who interacted with Him. They were also sick, but not healed. She couldn’t think that her touch could work a miracle. Jesus wanted to recognize her faith. Her touch was different, not a casual t ouch, but a conscious, deliberate, voluntary, dependent, saving, pre-meditated touch of faith.

Hers was a touch motivated by faith and faith always stop Jesus in His tracks. It gets His attention every time. God wants us to have a personal relationship with Him. We must know the Savior, if we must experience personal salvation. We must not be satisfied with being a part of the crowd. We may be near Jesus in a thousand crowds and yet not once in contact with Him. We are too c omfortable with surrounding Him as a crowd, but never truly knowing Him, or purposefully touching Him.

Jesus loves you so much that He made a way for you to be saved. That is why He died for you.  He loves us too much to let us die. Jesus is still here for you. He is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow.