On Friday May 14, the Singles Ministries Departments of Hebron and Rogers Avenue SDA Churches presented a forum on singlehood. We were truly blessed and hope you will be too. Here’s a synopsis. Enjoy!
What does it mean to be single? Who is considered to be a single person? Well it’s really simple. Anyone who is not married, is single. If you’re widowed, divorced, dating/courting, or engaged…you’re single.
In today’s society, our youth between the ages of 12-35 are active on the dating scene. They’re the ones who are socializing and networking in search of that perfect man or woman. In order to get to know someone of interest in the opposite sex, one must date. Then what is the definition of dating and should Christians partake in this activity?
Dating is arranging a social outing with another person, creating an opportunity to get acquainted. What happens on a date is decided by the two parties involved. Unfortunately, the word “date” has an entirely new meaning compared to 10 or even 20 years ago. Back in the days, a date would end when she is walked to her front door and maybe a kiss on the cheek. Nowadays, a date ends in bed.
What is the difference between dating and courting? Dating is when you get to know the person or persons you have an interest in. Courting, however, is when you have chosen to spend time with one particular person with the intention of marriage.
Most of us don’t court, we date. Why? That all depends on the person. Many of us don’t fully understand the difference between the two words. The lines tend to get blurred resulting in total confusion and heartache. Then there are those who date for all the wrong reasons. I hate being single. I want a man or woman. I’m lonely. I’m getting old.
We have gotten so comfortable with the standards given to us by the world, that we have completely ignored the plans God has for us. God never intended for us to date. He wanted us to court. Why date around when God has already hand-picked our perfect mate?
Trust in God, don’t worry about relationships. When the time is right, everything will fall into place.